Saturday, August 30, 2014

Happiness Talk - Parley's 7th Ward 8/31/14


Happiness

100 happy days

Several months ago,Our grandson, Matthew Mathison’s school teacher, bravely shared her struggle with infertility.  She and her husband had tried unsuccessfully for years to conceive a child.  She was about to undergo her last in vitro attempt.  Via email, she humbly asked families of her students to please pray for her – to pray to their own personal God in her behalf that she and her husband would be blessed with a child. A brave and vulnerable  request.   Her prayers were answered as were the prayers of many parents and students who love her.  A miracle of faith!  She is expecting a child in a few months. 

She moved to Chicago and to keep in touch and express gratitude she is posting her 100 Happy Days on Instagram.  I love the idea – a perfect project to seek happy moments, recognize blessings and express gratitude for a wonderful life.

I found this is a popular project on social media – 100 Happy Days  The website says this-

"The ability to appreciate the moment, the environment and yourself in it, is the bridge towards long term happiness.   71% of people tried to complete this challenge, but failed quoting lack of time as the main reason.  These people simply did not have time to be happy. 

People successfully completing the challenge claimed to
Start noticing what makes them happy every day.

Be in a better mood

Start receiving more compliments
Realize how lucky they are to have the life they have
Become more optimistic
Fall in love during the challenge."

This is not a new concept.  Gratitude journals serve a similar purpose.  Most importantly, prayer.   We are admonished to begin our prayers with first thanking our Father in Heaven for our blessings. 

 I have read and enjoyed the book, “The Happiness Project” written by Gretchen Rubin. She begins with a quote from Robert Louis Stevenson:

"There is no duty we so much underrate as the duty of being happy. "
People asked her:  "so if you’re pretty happy, why do a happiness project?"  She replied:

“I am happy – but I’m not as happy as I should be.  I have such a good life, I want to appreciate it more and live up to it better.  I think if I felt happier I’d behave better. 

Contemporary research shows that happy people are more altruistic, more productive, more helpful, more likable, more creative, more resilient, more interested in others, friendlier and healthier.  Happy people make better friends, colleagues and citizens.  I wanted to be one of those people.”
  

I loved President Uchdorff’s talk in April conference.
I have selected a few of my favorite quotes from his address:

"Over the years, I have had the sacred opportunity to meet with many people whose sorrows seem to reach the very depths of their soul.  In these moments, I have listened to my beloved brothers and sisters and grieved with them over their burdens.  Often their grief is caused  by what seems to them as an ending. Some are facing the end of a cherished relationship.  Others feel they are facing the end of hope – the hope of being married or bearing children or overcoming an illness.  Others may be facing the end of their faith, as confusing and conflicting voices in the world tempt them to question, even abandon what they once knew to be true.  Sooner or later all of us experience times when the very fabric of our world tears at the seams, leaving us feeling alone, frustrated and adrift.

There is something that would take away the bitterness that may come into our lives.  There is one thing we can do to make life sweeter, more joyful, even glorious.  We can be grateful. 


Some might say, “What do I have to be grateful for when my world is falling apart?"

Instead of being thankful for things – focus on being thankful in our circumstances. 

Being grateful in our circumstances is an act of faith in God.  It requires that we trust God and hope for things we may not see but which are true.  True gratitude is an expression of hope and testimony.  It comes from acknowledging that we do not always understand the trials of life but trust that one day we will.

Our Father has given His children the great plan of happiness; that through the Atonement of His Son, Jesus Christ, we can live forever with our loved ones; that in the end we will have glorious, perfect and immortal bodies, unburdened by sickness or disability and that our tears of sadness and loss will be replaced
with an abundance of happiness and joy, “good measure, pressed down and shaken together and running over. 

The Lord has given us His promise that those “who receive all things with thankfulness shall be made glorious, and the things of this earth shall be added unto them, even an hundred fold yea more.  DC 78:19”  end of Uchdorff quote

Nephi, one of my heroes – even after all he had been through, exclaimed:
“And it came to pass that we lived after the manner of happiness." 2 Nephi 5:27

I love the Chinese Symbol of Double Happiness. We used it as the theme for our daughter Camille’s wedding and has been a focal point in our home ever since.  

To achieve happiness – make someone else happy and as a result you are happy too. 

Double Happiness – so simple, so profound.

When you focus on others rather than yourself  happiness increases- 
Matthew 16:25 For whosoever will save his life shall lose it: and whosoever will lose his life for my sake shall find it.

One of the low points in my life has been an empty nest.  For 30 plus years I was focused on raising and serving my children and suddenly I found myself “lost at sea".  I’ve had to refocus and work hard to fill my life with purpose and meaning.  I think we must constantly readjust our sources of focus, service and happiness – a never ending project and challenge. 

I love this Audrey Hepburn quote:

"I believe in being strong when everything seems to be going wrong.  I believe that Happy girls are the prettiest girls.  I believe that tomorrow is another day and I believe in miracles."

Happiness is living the gospel of Jesus Christ.  Last week, Elder Ballard gave these suggestions to students at the Ogden Institute:

"If you stay anchored to the gospel of Jesus Christ, I promise that you will not have any challenge you can’t deal with.  Make time for self-evaluation.  Find and befriend a lonesome person.  Stay clear of harmful things.  Say thanks to your parents.  Don’t forget to pray.  And never take life too seriously – it’s OK to have fun."

Elder Ballard concluded with an invitation to take the journey to Gethsemane.  "Come to know the Lord by studying the scriptures and those essential moments in the Garden of Gethsemane when Christ atoned for the sins of the world.  You will have an experiene that will change your life forever.  Jesus Christ wants to be your friend.  Let Him in.  Turn your eyes to Gethsemane and you will find inner strength and power to carry on and do whatever it is that faces you."

I am on day 25 of the happiness challenge.  It has been a fun project and has raised my spirits and helped me recognize the true source of my happiness.  I’ve realized that happiness is not some grand event – but – often, small quiet moments – recognized through the whisperings of the Spirit – moments shared with family and friends – simple things.  Most importantly, happiness comes as we try a little harder to be a little better, rejoicing in the Atonement of Jesus Christ and striving to become like Him. 

I challenge each of you to recognize and be grateful for happy moments – let your life be anchored to the gospel of Jesus Christ. Be grateful in every circumstance.  Lose yourself to find yourself. Make someone else happy and you’ll be happy as well. 

Who doesn’t need a little more happiness? 

I say these things, in the name of Jesus Christ, Amen 

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